LETTER TO NUNU - PURIM ALL YEAR

LETTER TO NUNU - PURIM ALL YEAR

PURIM ALL YEAR:

AdminMarch 4, 2026

Purim All Year:

There is something I take out of Purim every single year and I can’t keep it to myself. I have to share it with everyone.

Purim is a holy day. It’s a happy day. It’s loud, it’s colorful, it’s full of life. But there is something much deeper going on that most people miss. Something incredible.

On Purim there is no judging. Look around. We hug each other. We dance together. We give to each other. We smile at each other. We knock on doors and hand out mishloach manos with love. No one is checking labels. No one is asking who you are or where you come from. Religious, not religious. Rich, not rich. Black hat, no hat. We are just brothers. We are just family.

And think about this. We are all wearing costumes. Wigs, masks, colorful jackets, crazy hats, red sneakers, blue sneakers. For one day we admit it. We are dressed up. We are pretending.

But the truth is we wear costumes all year.

All year we walk around with masks. Titles. Status. Ego. Money. Clothes. Image. We hide behind what we want people to think we are. On Purim the costume is on the outside. The rest of the year the costume is on the inside.

Purim exposes something powerful. Under the costume we are all the same. A neshama. A pure soul. We came from the same Creator and we will all return to the same place. No one takes their costume with them. Not the shoes. Not the hat. Not the title. Not the bank account.

So why do we judge? Why do we separate? Why do we look at the outside and decide who someone is?

On Purim we prove we are capable of loving each other without conditions. We prove we can drop the walls. We prove we can see past the costume.

The question is why only one day a year.

What if we lived like it was Purim all year. What if we smiled first. What if we hugged first. What if we gave first. What if we chose love over judgment every single time.

Purim is not just a day on the calendar. It’s a glimpse of who we really are when the walls fall down.

Let’s not put the masks back on.

Let’s not go back to judging.

Let’s carry Purim with us every day.

Because underneath it all, we are one.

MS

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